Isn't it funny you don't realise what you have until you don't have it anymore? Usually we mean this to be something we've lost that we treasure. In this case losing something has been the best thing that has happened to me and my family. Let me explain...
As a teenager I remember feeling self conscious, lonely and depressed once or twice to the point of wanting to end my life. I didn't even know what depression was then, the label came a few years later and I self diagnosed myself. I didn't talk to anyone about my feelings, I just sat in my room, thinking and thinking and imagining how life was so different for me than everyone else. I learned to put on a good front / mask.Read more
Sally Wyse shares her story of transformation. She had an addiction to alcohol for years and lost her job, friends, and family because of it. Through insight on hearing about the Three Principles, she has turned that around and is no longer an alcoholic. Listen to Sally as she shares candidly.Read more
My first glimpse of the potential and possibility of the Three Principles understanding was during the Nepal earthquakes in 2015. In the midst of a volatile, uncertain time I found an inner source of resilience, resourcefulness and ease.
I'd only begun my explorations a few months before that by watching videos from the Three Principles Conference in London. When I found myself shaken and afraid, I realized this was going to be a defining moment- I was going to find out whether people are the victims of circumstance or whether we really do have freedom in any situation like these teachers were saying.
What I found was that my internal life of feelings and experience was independent of the external happenings in my life.Read more
When I try and remember how life was before I came across The Principles, I think my fundamental belief was: "Life is difficult, but how we think about it can make a difference - and we have to work at that in order to counteract the hardships out there."
I studied (and taught) Tai Chi so that I could interact with life with as much ease and grace as possible - trying to remain centred amidst inevitable stresses. I studied and practiced Tibetan Buddhism because its teachers seemed to have all the answers to life's mysteries. These studies helped to maintain a positive attitude in the midst of challenges, but in addition, I wanted something which would help me interact with life in a more practical, day-to-day way. I thought I had found what I was looking for in NLP, where I developed new cognitive strategies, uncovered and transformed core limiting beliefs, and particularly loved working at "identity-level" change - change which transformed how I fundamentally perceived myself and how I operated in the world.Read more
Something I noticed a couple of weeks ago was it looked to me like clients (and I could see it in myself too) would sometimes be looking for answers to questions that actually weren't the questions Life was asking in the moment.
We get an idea in the moment and ask the question, "Am I good enough to do this work?" when the real question is: "What's this moment calling for? What's showing up right in front of me? What does this kid need? What is my heart telling me?"Read more
An Excerpt from Telesummit 2014
Question: "If wisdom is our default setting and built into us, why do most people seem so unaware and disconnected from it? Wouldn't it come more easily?"
Answer: It's funny. I look back even before knowing the Principles and it was interesting to me to see some of the times in my life when I really struggled, that wisdom was still there – my common sense, my gut instinct was still there, but I didn't know to listen to it. And I think coming across the Principles when I did, wasn't like suddenly I had wisdom – I saw wisdom had been there and I'd not listened.
I'd got so caught up in a world... you know we're surrounded by advertising and television programs and we go to school and there's all of this conditioning kind of happening, which is telling us that we need something in the world to be a particular way for us to feel OK. So we're almost living in a world where it's pointing us in the wrong direction constantly. And I feel like this is a gentle reminder of looking within ourselves.Read more
My son Vlad is six and a half. He enjoys playing outside with the kids. There are about five kids near the block, besides him, who are playing outside every afternoon after school. Kids are usually supervised by their parents. I leave Vlad by himself because I think he is old enough to get some confidence in his own strength and to start looking after himself.
One day I hear the kids outside playing and tell Vlad "Hey sweetie, kids are outside, do you wish to go and play with them?" The usual reaction would be him running at the window, looking and then rushing to put clothes on (without even asking for help as when we go to some less desired places) and living in a hurry with a lot of enthusiasm.
What answer do I get now? "I don't wish to go outside, mom!"
You can imagine my surprise. I ask why, hardly listening to him, and he tells me "Kids won't play with me." Not listening careful enough I just answered something like "How did you get this idea? I'm sure they will play with you." And ended the topic, Vlad went to play on the Ipad and I continued what I was doing without giving it a second thought.Read more
As I was listening to Jenny I heard that she fell in love with her true self. You know, as she uncovered her inner being, she fell in love with who she really is from the inside out, and so the outer self-image ceased to matter so much. And I certainly felt that myself, you know, as I began to discover who and what I really am on the inside, to uncover my birthright. That I'm beautiful from the inside-out, no matter what and that all humanity is beautiful from the inside out, and that the answer is love. Unconditional love.
And so I wouldn't talk to the child or youngster about their fear or any of their concerns about their self-image. I would draw out the love. I would draw out their natural mental health by loving them unconditionally.Read more
That's right, I heard him today! I thought I always listened and heard what my husband said, in fact I was always the one listening and he rarely listened to me, or so I thought.
My husband commutes to the UK once a month for work and spends the week rushing around seeing clients and of course buying the odd one or two things we still feel we can't do without here in Israel. The end result is that by the time he takes the underground to the airport and flies back home, he is fairly exhausted.
In the meantime, I on the other hand have spent the time running around the children, getting up extra early to ensure there is enough time for one person to do what two normally does and the same at the other end of the day. This of course is apart from me traveling to see a client or Skyping or phoning people.Read more